I know it is a long shot, but does anyone have access to ZEMAX software???
i wrote edmund an email and they were kind enough to respond proposing a prism pair.
When i told them that prisms won't cut it, they told me that there are ZEMAX files of their GRIN lenses available and maybe i should try to simulate the setup
so... does anyone have access to ZEMAX? 
( http://www.zemax.com/ )
on a second note, is there any sort of freeware optics design software??? something like the SNLO?
anybody knows what all these are about?? http://www.optenso.com/links/links.html#ldio
"its called character briggs..."